wow. I think he's scared. I think that if he doesn't see the ultrasound or go to docs appts, then it's like it isn't real. He may come around later as he has had time to process it. But with the extent he is saying right now of how itd be over if you showed up.. I'm wondering if he's worth it. But again. he is scared, it is a big change for him, just as it is for you. Yet unlike you, he feels he has more control over the situation. He can deny it, make it not exist, where for you it is a daily unavoidable reality.. We're all stupid and mean when we're scared.

Just thoughts, since I don't know him or if this is pretty typical for him.